LIONS, TIGERS and BEARS!
A SERIES ON HEALING THE DIFFICULTIES OF ABUSE, Part 3
I Wanna Hold Your Hand!
April16, 2019 & January 2, 2007
Well, my Dears, whether your pain stems from being slighted by someone who seemed to be your friend before, but now they ignore you, causing you pain and dislocation of your sense of self--and who hasn't felt that?
Or your situation may be as heavy as the lingering terrors of torture or abandonment— there comes a time when you holler, “Enough is Enough!” I’m doing whatever it takes to free myself from this pain and all the associated confusions—for REAL, Man! That’s “readiness!”
At this point, you are no longer trying to avoid the pain by denying it’s really there, leaving your body to avoid feeling it, freezing it with addictions, or blaming others for it, and you’re finished succumbing to its depths or destructive habits. And you’re ready to give up trying to control circumstances or people in ways that you think will make you “happy.” (Please re-read that last line until you really get it!) Reality has caught your focus and won’t let you go! You are ready to grapple with the poop loads of difficulty—no matter what, and sort it out.
There, my Dears! This is your commitment, your power and your Soul’s courage coming to the fore to take charge! Commend your Soul for showing up for you, and grab its Hand for support as you move forward with ever increasing awareness and steadiness, loving yourself for the ability to pick yourself up and keep trekking after the horror reruns and the inevitable stumbles! This is the real You, the Warrior You!
Now, there comes a time when you would like someone—and please pick a reliable, qualified someone to hold a gracious, purifying place of healing and possibility of full health for you. Look for someone who can grasp your process, help you stay kind to yourself, and yet keep you roped to your purpose of solid change, and growth of wisdom.
This person will not do your work for you! Never, ever expect that! But they will provide some solidity for you to mirror within your own self. They will help you probe your tangled inner reaches with sensitivity and insight. They will not be scared by your terrors. They will hold strength and good humor, bless you for your progress and not blame you for your reluctance or slips. They will keep your track ahead in your field of vision.
This might be an experienced therapist or healer, a good friend who naturally has these capabilities, and so on. But one huge caveat! Do not lose yourself by becoming dependent on this person or on any other. So, with that you may even be lucky enough to find a few trusted hearts to help focus your growth in various ways.
Accept and maintain your responsibility for your own course of evolution. Be kind to this person as you learn more and more how to be fully kind to yourself. Create some respectful boundaries about when you call on them, and don’t assume that their time is your time.
And understand that if your process gets too overwhelming, you must seek additional professional help. Do not attempt to hold your helper hostage to your own needs. This is part of your healing process as well! Learning how to respect and work with others while you take the sometimes lonely responsibility for yourself.
And be sure to make best friends with the Father God and the Mother God, as well as the Guru, or teacher aspect of God. Discover them! They are there for you! Be sure to talk to Them all the time and expect Them to talk back to you in various ways. Rant and rage if you need to. Tune into Their blessed comfort and be sure to receive it! And really allow them to take your burdens. Rely on Them! They'll like it!
But always remember! YOU are the one who will allow that pain to pour out of you for the sake of its being gone! And in its wake, YOU are the one who will receive the Wisdom of how things can become kind, loving and supportive. You have already read about relying on the super effectiveness of Kundalini Yoga and Meditation in our last chat on this subject. Please read the newsletter number 2 in this Series, just above this one to refresh your memory, if you like.
So, you are the one who will profoundly take the deep, primordial responsibility of courageously sitting with the pain while it boils out of you. The energy actually looks like heat waves as it leaves you, which allows your brain neurons to re-pattern themselves!
And what will be left then as all your scattered parts re-assemble is awareness, growth, understanding, depth, courage, consciousness, sensitivity, patience, character, caring, strength, clarity that your Soul could not have won in any other way, my Dears. This is your Soul’s secret—it sets these karmas into play because it hungers for the products of healing!
This is the Hero’s Journey, Dears! No matter if the healing is light or heavy, you are the mythic Hero solving your Soul’s challenges! Bless you on your journey!
To read the previous installments in this Series, please read those above this one on this webpage. http://www.SoulAnswer.com/lions_tigers_and_bears.html
Lots of Love,
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