Hate Nobody, Love Everybody
By Yogi Bhajan
January 17, 2017
From “The Mind, Its Projections and Multiple Facets” by Yogi Bhajan, PhD with Gurucharan Singh Khalsa, PhD. Kundalini Research Instititute, 1998. pp. 114-115. Used with permission. http://thesource.kriteachings.org/searchresults.asp?Search=The+Mind&Submit= to buy this marvelous book.
What is it like to live with the habit to relate from your Consciousness?
Hate nobody; love everybody!
It won’t cost you anything. Love never costs anything. Love is the most selfish act. It gives you so much protection, grace and radiance. It doesn’t give you any smallness or suffering. The attitude of your conscious living is to love and give grace to someone worthy of your trust. Even if you know a person who is hopeless and good for nothing, still love him. Never trust him. You have that right; this is up to your own conscience and intuition.
When you come from your Consciousness, you need not match those who do not, and who are caught in the tangle of reactions to their own emotions. You will meet some people who will tell you, “I am leaving you. I don’t care. You are nobody.” But those who belittle you and try to bring you down are just dogs of the time. They have to bark. They are emotional creeps who cannot do anything but what they do. Love them anyway. Be confident of your own Consciousness and let life be vast and creative as it is.
This may seem hard but your dog cannot cook food for you, can he? Still you love him. You have to feed him dog food, right? He cannot dance with you. He cannot go to parties. Your dog cannot do millions of things. You find a way to love him anyway.
What happens if another human does the same thing? They bark; they have teeth; they cannot do anything; and they do not understand your Consciousness. Don’t get hurt by trusting them. Do offer trust to life. When you cannot trust, then at least love. Hatred will go against you and kill you. Vengeance will ruin and cripple you. Anger will rend and cripple your body, and initiate every disease. Your mind may drop those angers and mistrusts, but they leave a scar in the body and wear it down, so live with lightness and patience.
When you live consciously Conscious with mind and Consciousness balanced, you develop a sensitivity we call reverence. Then relationships are healing, wise and productive.
But in this country, I have seen that almost every relationship is emotional and temperamental. There is a tremendous lack of reverence. Once I surveyed a dozen or so people.
I asked, “How can you knowingly and rudely abuse somebody, and then expect that one minute later that same person will talk to you and make any sense?” The answer was, “In this country that is our normal way of speaking.”
Abuse and familiarity are our norms in communication. Do you believe that? I couldn’t believe it. It is communication without Consciousness or relationship to the Consciousness and subtlety that is you. If somebody takes advantage of the privilege to communicate, and just abuses, lays his number, or dumps his subconscious, that person has fallen from his own grace—his own grace!
If you live with that attitude of reverence for yourself and all others, you will be healthier, happier, and more effective. Live Consciously. Try it as an experiment for one week. Test it. Relate to others from your Consciousness and nothing else. You will be surprised how great a load you will drop. In just one week without emotional and commotional interlocking, with your mind alert and Conscious, experience how light you will feel. As that load drops, you will feel totally new, and even sickness will drop away before your eyes.
Take a chance and live consciously. Be Light and polite and beautiful, just as Guru Amar Das showed us by serving all. Call all your friends and three people that you hate the most, and be kind and clear. Share your self and the feeling to just act and speak with reverence and love. It is called Conscious living, and it gives you and your mind vastness in reality.
Now, I have found this advice from Yogi Bhajan to be so very, very true! But the one thing that you have to remember is that when you send love and kindness to another person who is being abusive, they may still express their anger, ridicule, etc. But the important thing is that you must not get involved in any kind of reaction to that.
Use your amazing Heart Breathwww.SoulAnswer.com/heart_breath.html , which is the healing energy of pure love without any expectation of what will happen next or "love hooks" that call for them to return your love. Remember, loving the other person is primarily for YOU so that you don't injure yourself!
The other person may or may not quit their nastiness. Nut sending them love in the face of this abuse will help you ease out of feeling bad about the encounter, yourself or the other person because you realize that they are actually expressing their own pain towards you. At that point, you are not responsible to carry their pain or their abuse towards you.
Rather, talk to Soul www.SoulAnswer.com/soul.html about it to get the wisdom. Give it up entirely to Soul, or God, Guru Ram Das, etc. for recycling. Yes, "Letting go and letting God" really does work! But you have to be sure to fully GIVE IT TO God, not just ask God to take it away! There is a big difference.
Let go of any need for Justice, etc. Just send love and kindness. You will be much better off for it, and I bet that it might actually confuse the abuser. But at least you don't have to scar your own body and mind with the anger and ugliness, and you become free!
One caveat. If someone close to you--whether in your family, at work, etc. continues to act abusively, then please create your realistic boundaries. Make it kindly clear to them that their behavior is not acceptable. Remind them each time they try to hurtfully cross those boundaries, then please both of you see a therapist, or get other kind of counseling. If this doesn't work, then leave the relationship. Stay protected in your Consciousness.
Try it! As Yogi Bhajan says, "Experiment with it!"